This self-audit is not a diagnosis. It is a mirror. The goal is not to shame yourself, label yourself, or decide that something is wrong with you. The goal is to become more honest about what may already be showing up in your patterns. Answer based on your actual behavior, not the version of yourself you wish were true.
Closing Reflection
You are not looking for a label. You are looking for a pattern.
And if the pattern is there, that does not mean you are broken.
It means something has been carrying too much.
That can change.
If this pattern resonates and you are tired of romance carrying too much of your identity, you don't have to rebuild your center alone. Let’s look at your specific patterns together.
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Dive deeper into these patterns on the Hard Truths: Less Fantasy. More Truth. Better Love. podcast, where I break down this exact self-audit and how to start shifting the dynamic.